how i got over

How I Got Over: Shauna from Her HS Story

Last month was the scariest month of my life. I had a near-death experience due to my auto-immune disorder and an infection. I had been hospitalized, temporarily disabled, and unable to work for the entire month. Not many people knew that I suffered greatly from this disease and it threw a wrench in my plans for the month of June. I wanted to dedicate last month's post to Hidradenitis Suppurativa and spread awareness about a disease that not only impacts my life daily but the lives of many. HS can cause chronic pain and disfiguration of the skin. A lot of studies show that patients with HS experience depression due to how intense the disease can be. 

Although I wasn't physically able to carry out my goal due to my HS last month I am still going to share the story of someone who has taken her diagnosis and used it to empower others. I am slowly healing and during this process, it is crucial for me to be transparent and provide resources. Shauna, who I found on Instagram a few months ago, is on a journey to encourage and educate others on HS through Her HS Story. Here is how she got over.
 

K: Who are you at this very moment?

S: This is a good question. I’d say I am a lover of many things...body-love, good food, family, friends and life.

K. Are you who you thought you’d be? Why or Why not?

S: I think growing up, we all have this idea of who we think we will become, but once we go through life experiences, we kinda just begin to form into something much deeper than we imagined. I always knew I wanted to be and remain a loving person who helped as many people as possible to overcome sadness and I feel like that hasn’t changed in many ways. Today, I enjoy inspiring others, even if it’s just one person.

K: What is your life’s mission?

S: My life’s mission is to help as many women as possible by teaching them how to love themselves unconditionally.

K: How did you get over?

S: As a child, I was sexually abused and experienced traumatic domestic abuse, inflicted upon my mother and siblings. I carried a lot of pain into my teenage years and adulthood but always had a huge smile on my face. This manifested itself into body dysmorphia and poor emotional eating habits. I only began working on my mental health and self-love just 4 short years ago. Since then, It’s been my mission to help other women overcome their food & body battles. Through helping others, I was able to heal myself and I am forever grateful for my life experiences, as they’ve shaped who I am and how I show up for my followers today.

K: Share your light (quote, song, lyric, photo, memory)

Copy of Copy of God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change,Courage to change the things I can,And wisdom to know the difference..png

Shauna's Light

My mother is my light. Her name is Hope...ironic right? because that’s literally what she gives me whenever I’m faced with my most challenging moments in life. She’s been through so much and has overcome all of it. My perseverance and tenacity definitely come from her.

 

K: How has HS impacted your life?

S: I was faced with an extremely painful and debilitating autoimmune disease, called Hidradenitis Suppurativa at the age of 14 and diagnosed with the name around the age of 23. It was a really challenging condition to cope with, especially through high school. Though I’ve been in remission for a while now, I’ve learned a lot about myself throughout my entire experience with HS. I learned how strong I am, and I learned how to find the silver lining in every present moment. I learned that our thoughts, beliefs and mental health truly due affect our bodies and how it manifests into physical illness. I’m still learning so much but HS has been bittersweet because it’s definitely helped shape who I am today but it also was not the most fun experience and it still pains me to see others battling with this disease.

K: What are your goals with Her HS Story?

My mom calls me the Oprah of the HS Community lol. She’s super cute but honestly, my goal for Her HS Story is to really just be a supportive shoulder to lean on within our community. Definitely not a pitty-party type of vibe but more of an empowering movement. I used to hideout about my HS because I felt ashamed. It’s not the most “glamorous” condition. It’s messy, traumatizing, painful and REAL. My goal is to help survivors break out of the closet and stop hiding. The only way we can spread awareness is by talking about our experience and braving through the initial feeling of embarrassment. I’ve helped many people confirm their HS diagnosis with their doctors, just by sharing my story publically.  I’ve also been torn down for sharing my personal experience and that's okay too. As long as I help even 1 person with my story, then I have fulfilled my purpose here.

 

1 Tip for people struggling with HS, is to work on your self-love and mental health. Do whatever you have to do to remind yourself that you are worthy of love no matter your circumstance. We tend to be so hard on ourselves about a situation that can literally impact any human being. We are human and humans get sick sometimes. It’s not our fault and we are still worthy of love and acceptance.


YOU CAN FIND SHAUNA'S WEBSITE AND SUBSCRIBE TO HER YOUTUBE CHANNEL BELOW:

Personal Website: www.shaunasincerely.com 

Her HS Story TV: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHa8UoL45ZxWbv9_eORde3Q

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/HerHSStory/


 

Come shine with me!

How I Got Over: Ashley from Soul Bliss

I was super honored and excited to have Ashley from Soul Bliss be the feature for this month’s installment of “How I Got Over”. She just celebrated her 1-year anniversary of her company and is working towards some amazing things for the second year! I am a part of the #SOULBLISSHIVE and I love all of her products.  I ask her the usual questions but also included some about her business. Her journey and story are so beautiful and truly an inspiration. Like I always say it’s a blessing to have friends who don’t mind shining their lights onto you so that you can shine even brighter, Ashley is a true testament of that.

 

K: Who are you at this very moment?

A:  How do I answer that? Lol I’m just here, flowing. I’m a sister, daughter, aunt to 5 amazing humans, a friend, a business owner, a healer, a part-time vegan, a sometimes yogi...I’m just me.

K: Are you who you thought you’d be? Why or Why not?

A: I’ve been in a very reflective state over the last few months - thinking about where I was 5 years ago, 3 years ago, 7 days ago even.  I’m always growing and changing and I had no clue I’d be this person.  It wasn’t my “plan” but I’m a much better me than I would’ve thought.

K: What is your life’s mission?

A: One thing that has never changed is that I’ve always known this life, for me, is about helping people.  How I have and will do that while I’m here will continue to change and evolve but it is always the foundation of what I do.

K: How did you get over?

A: I’ve been abused. I’ve used alcohol to cope with and escape life. I’ve been abandoned by my father. My older brother was murdered when I was 16 and he left behind 3 kids so I’ve stepped into roles that were far beyond my years and responsibilities.  I’ve treated myself poorly because of what I’d been through, how I grew up...the list goes on.

Losing my grandmother started me on a healthier path (she died from a brain aneurysm from high blood pressure) because she was “young” when she passed.  At 23, I’d lost my last living grandparent and I realized there wasn't anyone in my family over 70 and that that shouldn't be the norm.  I’d had enough and decided to give myself more. There was a snowball effect there - me paying attention to my salt intake and stress levels in 2013 led me to a holistic lifestyle.  

I stopped playing victim.  Those things happened but now what? Now you get into healthy eating, yoga, meditation, nature, therapy, and more.  Now you do everything you can to be happy and live well, you deserve it.

K: Share your light (quote, song, lyric, photo, memory).  

Copy of God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change,Courage to change the things I can,And wisdom to know the difference..png

Ashley's Light

I call my nieces and nephew My Kids because they’re my babies and I’m not a typical aunt.  I’ve lived with some of them, I’ve gone to their parent-teacher conferences, I’ve helped with college essays, stepped in when they were bullied… They’re everything to me. They’re my light.

 

K: What was the moment when you realized that Soul Bliss was needed and had to be created?  

A: Other people saw it before me.  They’d see me making products for myself on social media, come to my house and drink tea I’d made, and I’d give them things as gifts.  They kept saying I should sell everything and one day it finally clicked that 1. I could share these things AND 2. I could get paid for doing what I love doing everyday - living my life.

It’s still wild to me because a few of my creative dreams were shot down by my dad and other family when I was growing up and I stopped dreaming. All I heard was that I should go to college and become “somebody” (whatever that even means).  Now it’s like, “what do EYE want to do, what makes ME happy? This is MY life”

 

K: What is the purpose of Soul Bliss?

A: Soul Bliss is a source for the soul & overall wellness.  We have natural and handmade body products, teas, tinctures, and other apothecary items, I do consultations and one-on-one sessions, events, custom orders, etc.  If I don’t do it, I’m able to point you in the direction of someone that does.

 

K: Now that it’s been a year, what have you learned about having your own business?

A: Pros and cons? Lol we don’t have the kind of time to list what I’ve learned BUT - you’ll learn a lot, you’ll make mistakes, you have to outsource, delegate, and ask for help, don’t overthink, don’t be too hard on yourself and take care of yourself.  It is very easy for those of us who take care of others to neglect ourselves so I schedule in time for me.  I have a morning wellness routine written in my planner and take myself on dates...I treat myself well...really well.

K: Anything new coming (that you’d like to share)?

A: We’re re-launching this Spring! New products, new packaging, and our own site lovesoulbliss.com in addition to the current etsy shop.  We’ll also have some wellness events coming up and we post everything on IG so you can follow for updates!

 

 

How I Got Over: Lauren Seahorn

I got to chat with a good friend of mine about her journey. Here is the first installment of How I Got Over, a monthly series that highlights people of Color and how they got over. I believe that we all have the ability to rise above our past pain and trauma. I am interested in seeing how others got over as an inspiration, a bit of wisdom, and comfort. 

 

KC: Okay so boom...Who are you at this very moment?

LS: I'm....figuring that out day by day. I thought I knew who I was beyond the roles I occupy, but WHEW the universe has shown me that I don't yet all the way know. i am, however, a mom, a wife, a friend, a sister, and a community builder.

KC: Totally understandable. It feels like a never-ending journey huh?

LS: Absolutely. it feels like once I've figured something out, 10 more things need to be unlearned or revisited. IT NEVER STOPS lol

KC: Are you who you thought you’d be? Why or Why not?

LS: When I look back to when I was a kid, thinking of who I'd be when I grew up.... I'd say I'm close. I knew I always wanted to be married and to be a mom, so that's worked in my favor. as a kid, I always thought I'd be a writer or a teacher, and well..............apparently I do both of those things, just not in a traditional way. I saw myself being a lot more confident in myself than I am at this moment, but that's a work in progress.

KC: Wow, you've achieved some of your goals, that's amazing. How do you teach and write? Sounds fulfilling.

LS: It's crazy, I never thought of being a mom and a wife as goals that I had, but.......I thought wrong LOL. They really were, and I know that being a family woman is part of what I was brought here to do. I look at myself as a teacher and writer in a non-traditional sense. With my forthcoming business/group Salve for Your Wound, I'm positioning myself as being a mediator of sorts...with a blog to boot. That'll give me the space to write about what I see fit as it relates to self-healing and healing collectively, and some of those blog posts will teach someone something, I'm sure. Eventually, I'd like to teach my own classes......about what, I'm not sure yet, but there's something brewing in the back of my head.

KC: Lauren, you are a true light. It's a blessing to not only know you but to hear your story. I like to think that we all rise above. Rise above past pain, trauma, and hurt through our light and darkness. So, how did you get over?

LS:  The feeling is mutual, Ka'Lyn.  I'd like to say that I just....got over, but I know that's not the truth. The negative things that shaped me the most were the sexual abuse I endured and the loss of 3 of the most important people in my life, all before the age of 16. It took until I was 30 (so just LAST YEAR) to be free of the shame and guilt that came with those things. It took a lot of turning the mirror inward...looking to see where I could and still can reclaim some of my power and take it back from those that sought to destroy me. It took the love of amazing women in my life to be safe spaces when I needed somewhere to land. It took the love of my now husband, who saw me through some of the darkest times in my life, and reminded me that I had everything I needed within myself to overcome absolutely anything life threw at me. And it took looking in my daughter's face - to know that I am leading her by my example, and she deserves to see her mother overcome and work with her darkness, rather than to pretend it doesn't exist. 

KC: PROFOUND and so real. It really warms my heart to know that you use your daughter a guide in a way. Last question or statement or whatever lol. My blog is called You Are A Light because I believe that we have the power within ourselves to shine. So, share your light (quote, song, lyric, photo, memory,etc.)
   

God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change,Courage to change the things I can,And wisdom to know the difference..png

Lauren's  Light:

I really do it all for my team. Us 3. And well...as soon as you asked that, the lyric "there are times...when you'll need someone...I will be by your side....there is a light, that shines...special for you and me..." popped into my head, so I'll go with that. I really do live by that with all my friends, my family, and the people in my group. I'll be there when you need me. 

 

 

Lauren's message was quite powerful. How have you gotten over? Comment below!

 

Come shine with me!